How to Be Alone (and Enjoy It)

How to Be Alone (and Enjoy It)

Last week I did a poll on Instagram Stories asking if y’all prefer to see fashion/beauty posts or life posts. The results were pretty much half-half! Even though the votes for fashion were a little higher, I figured it meant that almost half of you want to see more life posts on here. It also happened that there’s been a topic on my mind lately… can you guess what it is? 😉

With a majority of y’all in college/fresh out of college, I figure this would be appropriate. A big part of college is learning to be alone. Since you’re moving out on your own, you don’t always have a house full of people. There’s not always a friend to go to the mall with. Even if there is, there’ll be some point in everyone’s life where being alone is inevitable. Today I’m sharing some tips on how I learned to be alone.


For the past month and a half since school started, I’m alone a lot more than before. Since I only have one roommate this year, it’s been hard adjusting from always have a full house of 3+ girls to keep me company at all times. Not only that, I was accustomed to having Akash with me most of the time. We’ve both been super busy and don’t always have time to hang out every day. I also only have class on Tuesday and Thursday this semester. All in all, I’ve found myself being alone in my apartment more often than not.

Now don’t get me wrong- I definitely still go out on the weekends. I promise I’m not just a hermit that stays home all the time, haha! But with the blog getting bigger and bigger, I have a ton more work to do. Plus, I usually prefer to get it done alone with no distractions.

At first, it was super weird. And lonely. After a few hours of keeping busy with the mountains of work I have to do, I would look up and realize it’s pretty quiet with nobody in the apartment. There have definitely been some nights where I’m not super flooded with homework/blogging, & it gets lonely for sure. But, I’ve come to appreciate my days alone, and realize how important it is to set aside time to focus on myself.

I don’t know if anyone else does this, but when I’m alone I’m able to embrace the weird. Sometimes it’s fun to be able to sing or dance like nobody’s watching! Sometimes when I’m home alone and I do something stupid accidentally, it’s fun to just be able to laugh at myself. It also gives me time to spend with myself and learn things I didn’t know about my personality.

If you’re not used to it, it can definitely be a little strange at first. It was for me! However, I was able to get over it over time, and here are my tips:

Keep yourself busy.

This one’s been a big one for me! Especially in the beginning, keeping myself busy with my work distracted me from the fact that I was alone.

Put on some background noise.

A big reason being alone is daunting is because of how quiet it can get. One of my favorite things to do is play some music while I’m cooking dinner, or cleaning my room.

Go outside.

When I have a lot of homework to do, I love taking myself out for coffee dates. I’m sure y’all are probably thinking I’m such a loner for this LOL. But I seriously love just camping out at a coffee house for a few hours. I always leave feeling productive, and it’s nice to get out of the house. I always find some comfort in knowing I’m not completely alone, too. It’s basically a little trick to being alone while not actually being alone. Does that make sense?

Do y’all have any tips or tricks to enjoying time alone? I’m definitely no expert, so I’d love to hear your thoughts! Not only would I learn a lot from hearing y’all’s tips, but I’m sure you guys could help each other out too.



  1. October 18, 2017 / 5:08 PM

    I enjoyed reading your post! This definitely takes me back to my college days. ( I basically did everything you listed in this post! haha!) Like you mentioned, it’s definitely weird being alone at first, but as time passes by it’s not so bad! I learned to enjoy my alone time and found my hobbies. I love cooking and baking when my housemates weren’t home (I was always afraid I’m in their way since we didn’t have a big kitchen). Once I “perfected” the recipe, then I would cook for my roommates.
    But of course none of this means we’re hermits and unsocial butterflies. We got lives out of our “me” time! I think you got the hang of it!

    Jenn |

    • October 18, 2017 / 5:31 PM

      Thanks so much for your sweet comment, Jenn!! Def feel you on being afraid to be in your roommates’ way- I’m always trying to be super careful with that too!

  2. October 18, 2017 / 4:57 PM

    Great advice! I’m glad to know there are others who can embrace being by themselves. Embracing the weird cracked me up! But it’s so true! Thanks for being real, Summer! 🙂

    • October 18, 2017 / 5:32 PM

      Erin, I can always count on you to leave the best comments!! So glad you related to this post 🙂

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